Losing someone ...............

Just last Saturday my father-in-law (FIL) passed away. The doctor's diagnosed his death reason to be Acute Coronary Syndrome ie heart attack. But from what i know and told by my wife, from the many many times of his visit to the the very same hospital (University Hospital) for whole body checkups, never once have the doctor(s) ever mentioned that he had a heart problem. The same goes for the reason of his admittance to the hospital 1 week before.

The night before he passed away, he was transfered to the heart specialist section for better treatment, an area called CCU some sort like ICU (Intensive Care Unit). When i went to visit him on, a doctor was treating him and did not allow me into the room to have a look at him. I was told to wait outside and the doctor would explain his condition to me after he had finished his checkup on him. From time to time i do sneak by the room and peek to see what is going on.

After quite a long wait, the nurse with the doctor called for more doctor's help. Being informed by my wife that my FIL was not in any sort of dangerous condition, i did not pay much attention but i still went to peek into the room with more curiousity as to what is going on. A doctor inside ordered a nurse to close the door on me. Another half hour passed before i was informed that my FIL had passed away. I was absolutely stumped to be informed of that.

My mind really went blank. How could this happen??? I just heard his voice from outside not too long ago. I even had to be reminded by the doctor that i must inform the family members. Nobody else was there because no one was informed that he may pass away at any time. I called my wife first and she screamed out at the top of her lungs, i was very afraid that she might have fainted there and then. Then her tears were flowing already and i confirmed with her that her father have passed away. She said she will inform her mother. I called my own mom, quite a similar reaction i would say minus the shouting that is.

The doctor kept on pestering me, asking me what do i want to know. Either this doctor wants to show off his knowledge or trying to cover up his mistake or perhaps trying to avoid a lawsuit. I can't think of anything so what the hell am i supposed to know what must i ask?

Sighz, the funeral was very messy and many customs/tradition to follow. I would like to thank all those who helped out in the whole process. He was cremated on Monday (15/1/2007) and is placed at Fairy Park, Meru (falls under Klang district)

A place for the placement of his ashes where the size is about 1.5 x 1 x 1 (in feet, width x height x depth) cost almost 6k. It was of course a double 'room' for future purposes. Not a bad place, peaceful, with a good number i might add, J8. May he rest in peace after ending his suffering for almost half a decade. My MIL (Mother-in-law) told me that he never recovered from an incident when he was younger as a fisherman, from the description it seems to be pneumonia, coupled with his heavy smoking habit.

I may not be a devote, but may He shine and take care of him under his care.